4-15-02, Lisa Laird
Lisa's Lair
By Lisa Laird
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SOUL MATE SEARCHING
Too bad higher education doesn’t offer degrees in
dating. Is it possible for anyone
to earn a Master’s degree in marital bliss?
“Sealing the deal” with the ideal person is one area where no one has
an advantage over anyone else. The
quest begins during adolescence and progresses with each year thereafter.
The whole ordeal is mostly disappointing, disenchanting, and emotionally
exhausting. It’s like one
big stressful “spin the bottle”
game. Although most of us forfeit
and succumb to marriage, it’s not usually the dreamy great expectation we had
hoped for.
The fleeting notion has occurred to me that perhaps
people aren’t meant to remain together as the “happy couple” forever.
Since we are all unique individuals, maybe the reality of ever finding a
truly satisfying partner for life is purely a fallacy.
However, embracing one’s true and destined love is an almost sellable
fantasy; one I haven’t given up on.
Time after time I hear the expression “we always want
the person we can’t have” and it irritates me tremendously.
Whereas the common belief is that it is the “thrill of the chase” we
are attracted to, and not the actual person, I view it differently.
Desiring the guy I “can’t” have is motivated by the possibility
that he is the guy I’m supposed to have, destined to be with.
From what I’ve observed, most people don’t believe
in destiny. They probably don’t
even think about it; or, maybe as a passing thought, at best. I absolutely believe that there is a soul mate for each of
us. Regretfully, most of us will
never locate and/or realize our divine treasures. This concept may explain why
so many relationships fail: If
there were a shortage of apples, and your mind was set on an apple, you
wouldn’t buy an orange and color it red, would you?
I wouldn’t; I’d hold out for the apple.
Because no matter how much you make the orange look like an apple, it’s
still an orange. However, we
compromise with relationships all the time.
I’m sure that’s why so many fail.
Your soul mate could be anyone, anywhere.
And let me say this, the odds are not in your favor, not by a long shot.
We start the search at a disadvantage.
From the very beginning, the majority of people are off-limits for
whatever the reason…too many to list. As
if the search isn’t difficult enough, we must recognize and eliminate con
artists, frauds, and phonies, if we are lucky enough to pull off their masks.
Therefore, exposing them as the diversions from destiny that they are.
As in a video game, we must survive each level to go on to the next.
The ultimate reward is a counterpart less than perfect to the world,
however, more than perfect for his or her mate.
If you are one of the fortunate few to find your treasure, consider your
beloved a rare and sacred blessing. You
will truly know the meaning of wealth.
Remember, your soul mate is out there somewhere.
As in the video game, collect your ammunition, gather lots of extra
energy, and run as fast as you can. Jump
over obstacles and dodge the enemies. Try
your best to reach the highest level, to survive the game.
You may never win and never be united with your soul mate. Nevertheless,
I cannot stress how important it is that you give it your best effort. If circumstances outside of your control prevent you
from grasping gold, then aim for silver.
Don’t accept bronze.
Sadly enough, too many settle for aluminum foil.
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